Underrated Solo Saga: 6 reasons why you should go on solo trips & dates at least once in a lifetime.
Definition: A solo date is different for everyone, but typically it’s an occasion to do something nice just for you — and to do it consciously alone. Solo dating could involve a weekly or monthly ‘date night,’ or it could just be about saying yes to events or activities when they come up and going alone.
Solo dates and trips are so very underrated. Yet, I have been in love with them since my Engineering days.
We are social beings and tend to seek company almost always.
But when I was in college, I learned the hard way that although we need people, only we are there for ourselves in the toughest and the most crucial times.
Be it a setback, a victory, a heartbreak, or an achievement — we are the first to experience these moments and the emotions that follow.
Owing to unavoidable circumstances, I realized this.
More importantly, I love spending time with myself, enjoy my company, and need space to energize myself away from people.
Surprisingly when I tell this to people, they are often left in awe and find the concept of solo dates and outings strange.
When I tried to understand where they were coming from, I learned the following notions:
- People think solo outings are for nerds, introverts, or creative artists who need me time.
- The idea of going out alone seems absurd and vague.
- It takes them a lot of courage to even try it out.
All the reasons mentioned above are valid and legit.
Despite all of it, the following are why people should go out more with themselves.
1) You do not rely on others for anything.
Still regret not going to that event because your friends kept you hanging?
Aww.
No worries.
Such events will not exist when you start taking the onus of doing what you like, even if that means going out alone.
The next time you feel the need for something you like, and there’s no company, make the bold move and go for it. After you have done it once, there’s no stopping then.
It will also mean that you no longer need to rely on others to approve your ideas, plans, dates, or anything.
2) You explore unchartered territories.
When alone, you will likely be eager and active to learn more about yourself and your surroundings. It also means that you will explore, talk to strangers, try stupid or fun things, and live carefree with no one but yourself. These things may be the ones you won’t and don’t even consider trying when around people. Engaging in such activities, events, or ideas will give you the dopamine rush and a sense of achievement and help you understand your liking.
3) You learn more about yourself and the world.
When you go out alone, there’s one thing for sure — you learn more about yourself. And that’s amazing because you are your boss without judgment or pressure. Your conscious self makes each move and every decision without any influence.
Apart from self-awareness, you learn to observe and see things from a different perspective because you are alone. When you enquire, talk, and socialize with strangers, you will learn the small, basic yet apparent things.
4) You understand the importance of safety, mindfulness, and caution.
When all by ourselves, we tend to be extra alert and cautious of our surroundings. This doesn’t happen when we have a company. It also makes us think on our feet and prepares us for the possible worst-case scenario.
5) You are okay with being alone.
Once you leave alone to treat yourself, you realize that being alone is acceptable. You might not enjoy the time you spend with yourself, but then you know that if you have to do things by yourself, you are more than capable of doing it. The thought of being single(not in the context of a relationship) doesn’t scare you anymore.
6) You feel confident in your independent self.
You know that you are there for yourself because you have been there. Hence, you feel confident about being alone and doing it all by yourself.
Despite the many reasons that I have listed based on my experience, there might be chances that you try this out and understand that it isn’t your cup of tea. And that’s alright. But that one experience will stay with you for a lifetime, be it good or bad.
To conclude, I urge everyone to go out once at least once with themselves to know themselves better and enjoy your company.
Love and light to all.
What are your thoughts on solo outings?
Are you planning to go on a solo trip or outing?
Let me know in the comments.
Also, read the detailed blog on my first-ever solo trip here.
